A Liberating Truth About Big Life Decisions

Dear Reader,

Making big life decisions such as whether you should leave your current job or change your career as a dentist altogether can feel immensely overwhelming.

It can feel like making the “wrong” decision will ultimately change the course of your life in a terrible way, putting you in a position where you’re worse off and you’re left reminiscing on the days where you had it good but failed to see it that way.

It can feel like there is so much at stake and so much to lose. Like you would be throwing away years of the time, energy, and money that you had invested in dental school, courses, equipment, and maybe your office.

Simply said, it can feel like making the wrong decision will end up ruining your life.

Unfortunately, when we are in this space, our best, most well-thought-out decisions cannot be made. We often end up making decisions out of fear and scarcity and not ones that are for our higher good.

And if you’re an unhappy dentist, you stay stuck and unhappy.

But, I have a little truth bomb for you.

There’s no such thing as a right or wrong decision. If you can really wrap your head around this, it can alleviate so much pressure.

How do I know this? Well, for starters I’m sure you can think of something that seemed like a terrible decision, only to realize a few years later that it ended up serving you, and you wouldn’t be where you are today without it.

I’m going to give you an example of romantic relationships because this is my favourite thing to do with clients to demonstrate a point. And it works well.

Imagine you were in a rocky long-term relationship and after two years you decided to end it. Maybe a few months after your break-up, you feel like you wasted your time and really set yourself back compared to your friends who are all getting engaged and buying houses with their partners.

Maybe you’re left with baggage that seems insurmountable (cue in grief, bitterness, heartbreak, and trauma). Now you have to find a new place to live, and your therapy bills are racking up. Your therapist keeps insisting on seeing the opportunities for learning and growth but all you can see is a major financial and emotional setback.

But then something happens, maybe one year or two years later. You’ve gained independence you’ve never had before. You now know your non-negotiables in a relationship with clarity you’ve never had before. You understand where you fell short in your previous relationships, and you know the kind of partner you want to be. You’ve developed a sense of stability and self-trust that you could only dream of a year ago. You like and appreciate yourself more, and you feel more like yourself than you can remember.

All this is thanks to a rocky long-term relationship, the spiraling grief of the break-up, and the aftermath. So ultimately, was it all a good or bad decision? Right or wrong? A setback or an opportunity to know thy self?

You are the only person who gets to decide that. Your opinion is the only one that counts.

Everyone around you will have an opinion on it. Maybe your best friend thinks that your relationship was a terrible idea, but your mom thinks it was essential to helping you become the person you are today.

Who’s right?

No one. And it doesn’t matter.

 The only person whose opinion matters is yours because, at the end of the day, it’s your life.

 You get to decide how you want to think about your decisions, big or small, because there is no ultimate truth that exists out in the universe to settle all things and give you the validation that you’re looking for.

You can validate your choices, and that is good enough.

This is what I mean when I say there are no good/bad or right/wrong decisions. Objectively speaking anyway. There are just decisions. And each one may take your life path on a different trajectory.

This applies to your current job and your career as well.

Maybe you’re contemplating leaving your associateship position at your current office because there is little room for growth, even though you’ve been there for three years and have gotten comfortable with the patients and staff.

Maybe you want to leave your role as an associate and transition into becoming an owner.

Maybe you’re contemplating leaving dentistry or making it into a part-time gig so you can focus on something else that fuels your passion.

Just make sure you like your reasons for it and your “why.”

If you struggle to figure out what’s best for you and with big life decisions, feel free to reach out HERE for a complimentary coaching consult to see how I can help.

In my next post, I will be sharing certain tips, tools, and considerations that can help you make clean decisions that you are a lot less likely to regret.

With all that said, I’ll leave you with this:

“More is lost by indecision than wrong decision. Indecision is the thief of opportunity. It will steal you blind.” -Marcus Tullius Cicero

Yasmin Bakhtiar, DMD

Yasmin Bakhtiar, DMD

I'm a life coach and dentist based in Toronto, Canada. I was trained by the Life Coach School and I work with healthcare professionals who feel lost and unfulfilled to get them back on the path to enjoying their lives and careers again. Raising the consciousness of the planet, one individual at a time.

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